Ode To James Spader

 

Happy birthday to James Spader! He is 54 today. What should you do in honor of James Spader's birthday? Cuddle up and watch Pretty In Pink tonight. Have some sex, tell some lies, and watch some videotape. Catch up on The Black List on your DVR because it's so good. Have a dinner of one scoop of creamed potatoes, a slice of butter, four peas, and all the ice cream you can eat. Or my personal favorite- give or get a spanking while watching Secretary. That's what I plan to do. Below I'm reposting an older post of mine about why I love James Spader and the movie Secretary.

 

Okay so this is a spanko blog, you can see where this is going. For anyone who hasn't watched the movie Secretary, why are you still sitting there reading this? Go rent it, now! Alright, that's as toppy as I'll get. I've always been a fan of James Spader. From the unlikeable pretty boy Steff in Pretty in Pink to the over the top nerdy Mr. Richards in Mannequin.

Sex Lies and Videotape, White Palace, Crash. He's clearly an actor who likes to keep off the beaten path. I was an avid fan of The Practice and have every season of Boston Legal on DVD. But it was after watching Secretary that James Spader earned a special place in my heart.

Secretary came out in 2002 and although I reside in the home state of the Sundance film festival, I didn't see it until several years later. I don't recall why it came up, but a coworker who was an independent film buff mentioned it. I went and got myself a copy and watched it many times. I always hid the DVD in my computer desk drawer, as if someone seeing I owned it would immediately out me as a spanko. Lol. But at the time, I had not come out into the lifestyle yet, didn't know there was a lifestyle. One thing I did know was that the first spanking appears 49 minutes into the film. Seem a little exact? Go look it up. I've watched that scene a few times. ;-)

Secretary is about much more than spanking, of course. The dynamic between Edward and Lee's characters, played wonderfully by Maggie Gyllenhaal, is fascinating to watch. In more mainstream media, it seems that any characters into kink get portrayed as freaks. The Killer Inside Me, anyone? This movie is the only one I've seen that seems to give a more accurate perspective of how these characters think and feel and that they are otherwise "normal" people.

I don't know what a vanilla person's perspective on this movie would be since I'm spanko minded, but I always notice the little details when watching this. How she intertwines her fingers with his after he first spanks her. The look on her face when she goes to look at her freshly spanked bottom in the mirror. His quiet but firm tone of voice. Her happiness at eating four peas as her family looks on in awe. Her cunning delight when she finally gets called into his office again after the worm incident.

In the overall picture of the movie, the spanking parts are brief. But the relationships between these characters is what pulls me in. And there are so many things that I can relate to. Upon seeing the part where she swats herself with the brush, I thought other people have done that? Lol. The scene where Lee is making out with her boyfriend and tries to place his hand on her bottom but he keeps moving it up to her back. Then she even lays across his lap sticking her bottom up high which just makes him think she wants to have sex. That always makes me laugh.

Am I personally into everything that they do in the movie? No. Please don't tie me to a stove and throw tomatoes at me. But this kinky love story will always remain a favorite. So much so that I even borrowed her name as my own scene name. Gasp. Yep, the cat is out of the bag, my name's not actually Lea. And don't even start with me on how I spelled it wrong... Lol. As for James Spader, I'm glad that he can delve into the unusual roles. E. Edward Grey will always be my favorite. And now, some memorable lines.



E. Edward Grey: Look, we can't do this 24 hours a day, seven days a week.
Lee: Why not?

God, I love this movie.

Feeling The Quirt

A quirt

On Saturday night, S and I attended a local play party. I think the theme was "Try not to melt!" Okay, maybe not officially. I hate summer. It has been so fucking hot this past month and sadly, August often has even higher temps than July does. Ugh. Not looking forward to that. We made the best of it though and tried to distract ourselves. I also may have hogged the hallway for quite a bit of the night standing directly under the swamp cooler.

I don't think I have bought an item of clothing in at least a year because I really hate shopping. Early Saturday I went in search of some new things though. I have a 10 second rule with clothes shopping which can make finding something more difficult. "Can this item be pushed aside/removed in under 10 seconds should a spanking opportunity present itself?" That is what I ask myself. I found a few things that made the cut, including 2 dresses.

I very rarely wear a dress or a skirt because being a tall woman really blows when it comes to clothes. Things that are meant to be near floor length on a woman of average height end up a weird mid calf length on me. Knee length for a woman of average height is a mini dress on me. I was happy to find something in between and ended up wearing a red print above the knee dress that was a light material good for the fucking heat. I was constantly looking over my shoulder throughout the night to see who people kept complimenting so it seemed to be a good choice.

The next morning

Enough about clothes, you are here to read about spankings. T is someone I've talked to before about playing but the opportunity had never come up where we happened to have time and be at the same party. He was there, and I was there, and my dress was moved out of the way in under 10 seconds. That rule is paying off already! A while back on Fetlife, he had posted a picture of a quirt he had. A quirt is something I've never seen in person before or come across in a spanker's implement collection. It is a forked type of stock whip which typically has two leather falls at the end, like the tails of a tawse. Stupid me was like, "What's that? It looks interesting. I've never been spanked with one of those. I'd like to try it." He happened to have it with him at the party so try it we did.

We found a space and I bent over a massage table, my dress easily raised. T had a crop, the quirt, and a delrin cane looking thing which I eyed suspiciously. I typically do not like acrylic toys but said I would try it. A few strokes later it was vetoed by me for being much too thuddy. I cannot handle a lot of thud and didn't want the scene to have to end that quickly. He switched to the crop which was as stingy as most crops tend to be. I was struggling staying in place already. He mixed in a few swats from his hand which jolted me forward. I discovered he's one of those people whose hand is just as bad as an implement. Ha.

24 hours later

After that we got around to the quirt. It had caught my interest in his photo because it looked like something that would be stingy. It was, but still had some weight to it on impact. The first few strokes with it weren't too bad but when it'd hit in the same spot a second or third time it was much harder to handle. It caused a deeper pain and I could feel a few spots where I was definitely going to welt up. I kept jumping up from the table. He switched back to the crop for a bit with a few swats mixed in from his bionic hand. I was feeling pretty well toasted so we ended things there with a hesitant hug due to all the sweatiness. Ha.

You can see the marks that developed in the pictures above. My final review on the quirt is that it fucking hurts! I don't know if I'd want to be spanked with it again or not. I'm sure some of you are looking at the first picture in this post and saying, "Duh Lea, you didn't figure that out to begin with?" Well shut up! Now I know for sure! I had been wanting to play with S that night also and got a hand spanking from him afterwards. He didn't break out all the toys since I was already marked. I know I complain that he's always so mean but sometimes he does shit like that to throw me off. ;-) All in all, 2 spankings and being told I looked pretty added up to a nice night!

Playing With Rope

Below is a picture of a new shirt I got recently. It's funny how many people do a double take because at first glance they assume it reads "Hello Kitty." I chose to wear this shirt to a Mardi Gras themed party this weekend because it was the closest I would be getting to showing my titties.

 I've been curious about playing with rope for a while but had never gotten around to talking with anyone about it very extensively. That whole initiating things issue. Ugh. I have experienced wrist and ankle restraints during spanking and sexual play. I liked that and wanted to experiment further.

Cool new shirt

The opportunity came up at this most recent party after chatting with IF about it. He's very good with rope and I've seen a lot of pictures of the stuff he's done. We decided on aiming for functional rather than just pretty/decorative rope work and I got tied to a table to be spanked.

Does this rope make my boobs look fat?

First he did the chest harness deal pictured above and looped through another rope that was secured to the other side of the table. Then my arms, wrists, and legs were all tied. Those were not directly tied to the table so I could still move a bit and not have my limbs fall asleep.

Tied up

Of course with my chest being secured down on the table I was mostly immobile anyway, which was the idea. I needed S for the second half of this and he was happy to oblige with a spanking. As if I really had to twist his arm. By the way, all these pics were taken afterwards as you can probably tell from the reddened bottom.

Side angle

I couldn't really turn around to see who was present but could hear voices of a few people gathered in the room. S had his toy bag out but started off spanking me with his hand. He switched to the cane which was way too stingy right then and I asked if we could use something different. Well be careful what you wish for because next came the wooden stick and then a leather strap.

The end result, no pun intended.

Everything was stingy and I could feel my bottom had definitely reddened. He kept checking in that I was alright in that position and I would frequently wiggle my hands to keep them from falling asleep. That's something you need to do a lot when in restraints. All in all it went well and I enjoyed it. 

 

My official review on rope is I like it! It brings a different level of vulnerability to the spanking. There were people around during this scene and a lot of chatter so there was a lighter tone. But it's definitely something I'd try again. And in a more private, intimate setting it would be a whole different feeling and could lead to all sorts of things... Sorry, my mind wandered off there. :-D

The Angel Maker

You may remember me mentioning the email I sent to J titled "Valentine's Day", with only a link to the strap (pictured at left) in the body of the message. Well he picked up on my less-than-subtle hint and ordered it. Though it was unfortunately a tad late for Valentine's Day. That's what we get for not regularly checking our mail and missing the attempted delivery notice from USPS that was sitting in the mailbox for 3 days. D'oh!(Cane-iac's shipping is SUPER fast, as a side note.)

Valentine's Day was still enjoyable because of err... other activities, but testing out the new implement was belated. It's called the Angel Maker Burgundy Double Strap and we got it from Cane-Iac. We got another implement from Cane-Iac not too long ago, the OTK Leather Looped Strap that I wrote about here. I'm definitely a leather girl more than a wood girl and I generally prefer sting to thud. I'm really happy with all we've purchased from Cane-iac so far and have a rather long wish list saved with them currently. :-)

This strap is 1 3/4'' wide and 16'' long. As you can see from the picture, the last 6'' of it is cut into two strips. It's a double strap so makes quite a bit of noise when in use, not that any straps are particularly quiet from my experience. In the picture on the website it looked almost pink, but as you can see from the picture I took on the right it is indeed burgundy. It looks really nice. (There are plenty of pink implements on the site though if you are a pink-a-holic. I'm not.) The size is nice in that it can be used OTK or standing up for a full strapping. It was just small enough to fold in half and shove in my purse to take it with me to a play party on Saturday night. It got a lot of compliments.

That's enough of the stats, on to the action. The night before we used it, I'd had a maintenance/discipline spanking so my head wasn't in a real playful place to use it then. So we waited until the next night (and everyone who knows me knows that I hate waiting). I never know if the period goes inside or outside of the parentheses. Anyway, the time had finally come to try it out. J bent me over the bed and took my pants down and started right in with it. He was using it fairly light at first but it was certainly still felt. I laid out on the bed and he continued with a bit more intensity. It was quite stingy and it wasn't long before he had his free arm across my back to keep me from wiggling out of place. But I said before that I liked stingy. Why is that again? Sometimes I forget...

He pulled down my panties and went a bit harder with the strap until I really couldn't stay in place and nearly kicked my way off the bed. Of course this was a "nice" spanking. I'm sure he could've gone much harder with it but it definitely had quite an impact the way it was used. Final ruling: It's pretty, stingy with a bit of thud to it being a double strap, compact in size, and can be used nicely up to not so nicely. I'm happy with another great purchase from Cane-iac. I was quite pink pretty quickly and J gave me a nice massage with some lotion afterwards. The next day I had a bit of bruising, have to watch for wrapping with straps. Of course I tend to bruise easily anyway. All in all, I like it. Soon we're going to need a bigger container for all the toys shoved under the bed. :-)

New Addition To The Toybag

I'm worried that whatever I may write is going to pale in comparison to the popularity of my last post, but I'll soldier on. I've never had so many comments before, I guess we all LOVE cursing! Lol. That makes me happy. I hope that soon enough tops everywhere will accept my point of view on the matter.

I've shared before about how I really don't like having to ask for a spanking. I don't really like having to say much at all, actually. I find lines of questioning while OTK to be very annoying and distracting and I'm really not purposely being sassy when I don't give answers. It is just hard to focus. I'm just not made to answer questions under duress. I think if you look up "under duress" in the dictionary, you'll find a picture of someone OTK, because that really does define it. Duress- noun- 1. forcible restraint or restriction 2. compulsion by threat, specifically unlawful constraint. Synonyms- arm-twisting, coercion, compulsion, constraint, force, pressure. Hmm, sound familiar?

Having to answer questions and interact with the top forces me to stay in the moment and does fit in with my headspace sometimes. But that makes it no less annoying and distracting. Lol. I took off on a train of thought there but back to my story. I don't like asking for a spanking. I'm terrible at initiating things with people at parties, but even at home with my own husband. He's a man though (no offense, male readers) and sometimes the subtlety of walking past him in the room in nothing but a thong just isn't enough to get the point across. This led to a conversation between J and I the other day.

Me- "I'm hungry. Do you want to go out and get something to eat?"
J- "Yeah, that sounds good. Where do you want to go?"
Me- "I don't know. Why don't you spank me and then we can go get dinner after?"

OTK Leather Looped Strap from Cane-Iac

Then I walked away so I could possibly play it off as a joke and not get frustrated if he didn't want to do it. Well I didn't need to worry, he got off his computer and followed me into the bedroom. "And what exactly have you done that you need to be spanked for?" J asked. "Nothing," I shrugged, "but we do have a new toy to try out." I pulled out from under the bed one of our recent purchases from Cane-Iac, pictured at the right. It's the OTK Leather Looped Strap in the color russet. This was actually my first purchase from Cane-Iac but I've played with other people's toys from there and always hear such great things too. Good quality stuff and affordable pricing. The other night I was browsing and created myself a really long wish list. :-) I actually emailed a link of a burgundy colored strap to J and all the subject read was "Valentine's Day." Subtle enough?

This strap is sort of like a doubled over belt/strap like thingy. This is a great review, I know. Lol. Belts and straps are implements I have a love/hate relationship with. They don't have to be horrible but they certainly can be, depending on how they are wielded and by whom. This one is a little over an inch wide and about 12 inches long total. I'm not sure about thickness, but it can pack a punch. I laid down on the bed and J started out spanking me with his hand over my panties. Then he switched to the strap. I prefer sting to thud in general and found that this seemed to fall in between the two. It is advertised as being good for OTK but we didn't use it in that position yet. Because of it's size though I'm sure it would be quite effective.

J pulled down my panties and spanked me a bit longer with his hand and then switched to the strap again. I never think that my panties give me any protection until they actually come down and I feel the difference. Why I go through that in my head for each and every spanking, I have no idea. The strap stung a lot more on my bare bottom and can really pack a wallop without a lot of force behind it. I don't think he was using it too hard but it certainly left an impression. Since this was more in the realm of a "good girl spanking" it didn't need to be used hard anyway. Because of it's smaller size, it also is able to really get into every spot on my bottom including the damn sit spots. Remember- thinner leather pieces can be much worse than wider ones because of that. After I was quite pink, the spanking concluded. I even got a few pics of myself to estimate the damage and it was quite efficient. Not going to post them here though, sorry, I'm a tease. ;-)

So the final review: Cane-Iac has a new fan. I'll certainly be purchasing more from there. Maybe even that burgundy strap for Valentine's Day. The OTK Leather Looped Strap falls in the middle of the sting/thud scale in my opinion, can pack a wallop depending on how it's used, is very portable in size, and is quite an efficient implement. I'm happy with it. What did we do after the spanking? Well we went to dinner, of course. What else? Haven't you been following along?

Late Bloomer

Many of you are probably familiar with Erica Scott. For those who aren't, get familiar! You can read Erica's blog here to follow her day to day hilarity, rants, and descriptions of lots of great spankings. A few months back, I bought and read her book "What Happens To Naughty Girls?" which I posted about here. It is a collection of spanking stories, mostly fiction, all written with the classic Erica wit that her readers have come to know and love. You can check it out for yourself here.

This lovely cover design was created by Zelle

Fortunately for me and all her other readers, she now has a second book out. I was eagerly awaiting it's release after following her updates about it for the past few months. "Late Bloomer" by Erica Scott is a biography. Some may be familiar with "the scene" persona that is Erica Scott but this book delves much deeper than that. It allows us to follow her on her journey throughout life, from a sometimes dark childhood all the way up to emerging as a spanko and beyond.

It is poignantly written and engrosses one into her story. I could hardly put it down. It isn't all sunshine and rainbows, mind you. There were parts of it that brought tears to my eyes but others still that had me laughing out loud. The personality and wit she is known for comes through clearly as she weaves the story together. I only wish that it'd come out a few years ago so I could've read it when I was emerging into this lifestyle. Many parts of it just had me nodding and saying "Yes!" It is relatable, honest, raw, human.

Erica and Richard Windsor shot a funny promo video for her book that you can watch here. My reviewing skills may be a bit lacking but don't let that deter you, get a copy here and find out what all the buzz is about!

Fun With Flogging



Green deerskin flogger made by whispers_of_fire


I've gone implement crazy! Not too long ago, I shared about my new London Tanners toys here. The next toy has arrived. I'm now the happy owner of a beautiful green deerskin flogger. The pictures don't even fully do it justice, this is a lovely piece. The handle design is so intricate and it turned out looking awesome. It was custom made for me by whispers_of_fire on FetLife. You can find more of her incredible work here.

The handle has green, purple, dark grey, light grey, and silver woven into it. It has about 50 falls approximately 18 inches in length. This is a fun toy that will be used for lighter play, massage,  or err... other types of play. :-) Since it is thicker, it gives more of a thuddy sensation than stingy. Usually my preference is sting over thud but this is a whole different sensation and I love it.

I even ran it across J's back a few times and asked him how it felt. His response? "It feels like a car wash." Men can be so eloquent, can't they? Lol. My official review: LOVE IT! The impact of it, feeling all the individual falls run across my skin, the smell of fresh leather in the air... Yum.

Sunday Strapping

Time for the long awaited review of my new implements! Okay, maybe it was just long awaited for me... Lol. I received them about two weeks ago by mail and they were finally tested out this past Sunday. First, a bit about the implements themselves. This was my first purchase from The London Tanners. I've heard so many rave reviews about TLT (even from bottoms, that's saying something!) that I decided to take the plunge into leather goods. Both items are beautiful and clearly very well made. I expect them to last for a long, long time. Even though it had to come from across the pond, shipping was surprisingly fast and it all got here safely.

 Actually, a funny story there. It of course came discreetly packaged in a cardboard box. But there had been a visitor over at my house for several days. My husband was home when the mail came and knew that it was coming. Our visitor asked "what's that?" and my husband just tossed it into the bedroom, shrugging that it was something I ordered.  When he mentioned this to me later, I said, "you should've told him it was sex toys. That'd teach him to mind his own business." Lol. Alright, here's what I got.



Boudoir Paddle from The London Tanners


This is the Boudoir Paddle. Isn't it cute? (Insert joke like you know you're a spanko when you call implements "cute" and "pretty" here.) But don't be fooled, this leather paddle can pack some sting! This one was high on my spanko wish list. I've mentioned a prior experience with a leather paddle here. I really like the versatility of this one. It could be used in lighter, sensual play or for a nice good girl spanking, (pfft, like I get those...) all the way up to a hard spanking.





Domestic Discipline Strap from The London Tanners


My second new item is the Domestic Discipline Strap. It doesn't look as cute, does it? It's not. Lol. This leaves quite the impression without a lot of impact. I'm basing this on my husband telling me he didn't use it very hard. Sure, sure, usual top comment. It is a fairly thick strap and definitely leaves a sting but due to it's heaviness it also has a bit of a thuddy slap to it. This goes back to the sting vs. thud debate, I don't think I'm being too helpful defining it. It's toward the middle of that scale I suppose.


Back to Sunday. That is typically our maintenance day, as it was this week. I'd been a bit anxious to try out the new stuff the whole previous week. So what does my husband do? Tricks me into thinking we still won't be testing them out! How rude. I say "tricks me" because for a maintenance spanking there is usually just one implement used. It is set out on the bed before the spanking starts and used toward the end. On this particular day, he set out the wooden paddle. So I thought okay, we aren't using the new stuff still.

He pulled out the desk chair to the middle of the room and sat down, beckoning me over to him. He told me to take down my pants and I was pulled over his lap. A note here- bare feet on carpet is SLIPPERY! Though people who don't have their feet touch the floor wouldn't notice. Mine do reach the floor. I'll keep my shoes on in the future. He spanked me with his hand and after a few minutes, bared my bottom. The swats with his hand intensified as he continued the spanking. He grabbed the wooden paddle and I received a flurry of smacks with that. He asked me to stand up and I did so, thinking that we were done. I was told to sit in the chair for a minute and he went to the other side of the bed.

And what to my widening eyes did appear? A long leather strap and a paddle for my rear. Ugh. Nice of him to wait until I was well warmed up. I laid out on the bed and he started with the Boudoir Paddle. It landed stinging swats on my flesh in quick succession. The ooows began and I was kicking my legs in no time. He switched to the Domestic Discipline Strap just when I thought the paddle was bad. Yeah... right... After a few resounding slaps with the strap, I was squirming and could hardly stay in place. It stung really quickly. I could feel that I was going to mark from this, but I didn't care. I'd been so wound up over the last week and annoyed and stressed out, I really needed this. He always knows just how far to take things without me needing to say a word. He switched back to the paddle, then the strap again. My backside was burning. I got past that point of the pain and was totally in the zone. My mind was where I wanted it to get what I craved. Sweet release.

What Does Happen To Naughty Girls?

Well that should be obvious. They get the spankings they so richly deserve, of course! I recently purchased Erica Scott's book What Happens To Naughty Girls? It arrived in the mail a few days ago and I read it cover to cover, twice, this weekend. I absolutely love it. From her real life accounts to her fictional stories, her quick wit and love of spanking shines through. There were so many things that had me nodding in agreement, many others that had me laughing out loud, and others still that were just hot, hot, hot. That professor story, wow. Fans myself. I'm alright. Lol. I don't know if I'll ever have the guts to do it, but it has also given me ideas for quite a few witty retorts while over a knee. Thanks for the tips, Erica. :-) If you want to pick up a copy, you can find it here. It's given me a bit of the writing bug myself. Stories aren't my forte but I think I'll mess around a bit and if I come up with anything decent, you may see it on here in a future post.

This has been such a blah week. It feels like it has dragged on and on. Work was frustrating, people were annoying, and I just have not been in a very good mood. On top of that it has rained nearly nonstop which has also bugged me. I'm not living in Seattle here, enough already. But the upside is the world didn't end today. Not at my location anyway, maybe someone from the East Coast needs to comment here so I know you are all still alright. Lol. I'll give a nod to R.E.M. anyway. It's a good song.

 I did have fun hanging out with some friends on Friday night so that and the enjoyable read at least ended the week on a better note. This would be the perfect time for a stress relieving spanking, but I can't have that either since we've had visitors at our home for several days. Sigh. Back to my fantasies...

Why I Love James Spader

Okay so this is a spanko blog, you can see where this is going. For anyone who hasn't watched the movie Secretary, why are you still sitting there reading this? Go rent it, now! Alright, that's as toppy as I'll get. I've always been a fan of James Spader. From the unlikeable pretty boy Steff in Pretty in Pink to the over the top nerdy Mr. Richards in Mannequin.

Sex Lies and Videotape, White Palace, Crash. He's clearly an actor who likes to keep off the beaten path. I was an avid fan of The Practice and have every season of Boston Legal on DVD. But it was after watching Secretary that James Spader earned a special place in my heart.

Secretary came out in 2002 and although I reside in the home state of the Sundance film festival, I didn't see it until several years later. I don't recall why it came up, but a coworker who was an independent film buff mentioned it. I went and got myself a copy and watched it many times. I always hid the DVD in my computer desk drawer, as if someone seeing I owned it would immediately out me as a spanko. Lol. But at the time, I had not come out into the lifestyle yet, didn't know there was a lifestyle. One thing I did know was that the first spanking appears 49 minutes into the film. Seem a little exact? Go look it up. I've watched that scene a few times. ;-)

Secretary is about much more than spanking, of course. The dynamic between Edward and Lee's characters, played wonderfully by Maggie Gyllenhaal, is fascinating to watch. In more mainstream media, it seems that any characters into kink get portrayed as freaks. The Killer Inside Me, anyone? This movie is the only one I've seen that seems to give a more accurate perspective of how these characters think and feel and that they are otherwise "normal" people.

I don't know what a vanilla person's perspective on this movie would be since I'm spanko minded, but I always notice the little details when watching this. How she intertwines her fingers with his after he first spanks her. The look on her face when she goes to look at her freshly spanked bottom in the mirror. His quiet but firm tone of voice. Her happiness at eating four peas as her family looks on in awe. Her cunning delight when she finally gets called into his office again after the worm incident.

In the overall picture of the movie, the spanking parts are brief. But the relationships between these characters is what pulls me in. And there are so many things that I can relate to. Upon seeing the part where she swats herself with the brush, I thought other people have done that? Lol. The scene where Lee is making out with her boyfriend and tries to place his hand on her bottom but he keeps moving it up to her back. Then she even lays across his lap sticking her bottom up high which just makes him think she wants to have sex. That always makes me laugh.

Am I personally into everything that they do in the movie? No. Please don't tie me to a stove and throw tomatoes at me. But this kinky love story will always remain a favorite. So much so that I even borrowed her name as my own scene name. Gasp. Yep, the cat is out of the bag, my name's not actually Lea. And don't even start with me on how I spelled it wrong... Lol. As for James Spader, I'm glad that he can delve into the unusual roles. E. Edward Grey will always be my favorite. And now, some memorable lines.



E. Edward Grey: Look, we can't do this 24 hours a day, seven days a week.
Lee: Why not?

God, I love this movie.

Inside The Toy Bag

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The Implements

Results of my blog poll: What Do You Like Best To Spank/Be Spanked With?

the good old hand- 29 votes
belt- 11 votes
strap- 2 votes
paddle- 15 votes
cane- 14 votes
The FES- 5 votes

AND THE WINNER IS...

In many similar discussions I've been part of, the hand generally gets the most votes. There's just something about the human touch, the intimacy of skin to skin contact. The hand got my vote as well. Hands are all around us adding an extra thrill to those of us that are spanko minded. It's always available and you never know when it might be used...  The hand also has great versatility, it can be soft and gentle or fast and furious. I read a comment where someone stated something to the effect of  "spanking by hand is the cake, other implements are the icing". For the record, I'm just fine with plain cake. It's still cake, after all. Too much icing gives me a stomachache. ;-)

Nice logo on the belt, right? Thank you Google images. Hehe. What can one say about the belt? I've heard it described as the symbol of masculine authority. I like that. I definitely have a whole headspace just for the belt. It's not something I can casually play with, the belt screams discipline. It means business. And like the hand, it's discretely present, leaving you wondering when it's going to be coming off next. Then there's the whole ritual of removing the belt. Hearing it swish through the belt loops, being doubled over, the sound of it in the air, knowing it's coming, waiting for the impact. shivers

The strap has some of the qualities of the belt. The thwapping sound of leather as it comes down across your bottom and oh, what a sting it leaves behind. To some, it brings to mind school scenarios and corporal punishment.

As a subcategory here, I will mention The F.E.S. No image available as noone in their right mind would get close enough to it to take a picture. What is the F.E.S., you ask? If you don't know, count yourself lucky. It stands for Flesh Eating Strap and belongs to a fellow Scony member. It's a strap type implement made of blood, sweat, tears, and leather. Or so I hear. Where can you get one? Nowhere, you sadist. It is one of a kind and was hand made by the devil himself.

The paddle had the second highest number of votes. What kind of nuts are voting on this blog? Paddles can come in leather but it generally makes me think of wood. As you may have seen in a blog entry I made earlier this month, I've recently become better acquainted with wooden paddles. Depending on the type of wood, they can pack some sting but most tend to be more thuddy. Quite an effect even with little impact used. Wood is often to blame for leaving marks if you aren't careful.

And last but not least, the cane. Loved by few, feared by many. Not for beginners, the cane requires an experienced hand. This is the implement I've had the least experience with myself, but I still find it scary. Lol. It just seems really severe to me. It would definitely put me in a discipline headspace and not be for casual play. But for those who love the cane, a proper caning is considered almost an art form.


This concludes my talk on implements for today. What's your favorite icing? :-)

Paddles And Brushes and Belts, Oh My!



The Stringman in Padeo, from kittysexoticpaddles


My new merchandise has officially been tested out and I have one word for you- OOOWW! What was I thinking, buying wood?? They were so pretty though, that's what lured me in. Lol. The first paddle is so cute and shaped like a guitar, I've never seen anything like it. It's made from Padeo which is a lighter, springier wood. It has more sting than thud, but also covers more area than the other paddle due to it's unique shape.







Captain's Choice Gemini in Australian Canarywood, from
kittysexoticpaddles


The second paddle is dual sided, made of two different kinds of wood, Australian Canarywood on the one side and Bali Lacewood on the other. These are considered more middle weight woods. (I don't wanna meet the heavweights! :-O ) That adds up to one thick mother ------. Lol. This one packs more thud than sting. I've never bought paddles before and Kitty of Kitty's Exotic Paddles was really helpful when ordering these and made suggestions on what to get for a wood newbie. I highly recommend checking her stuff out. The woods are just beautiful and have a nice shine to them, each has really unique markings. (I can hear your sarcastic thoughts now, "what about YOUR markings?" Yeah, yeah...)



Captain's Choice Gemini in Bali Lacewood, from
kittysexoticpaddles


Okay, end of the infomercial section. You want to hear about the damages, right? Sadists... ;-) So the evening started off with a maintenance spanking. These usually fall on Sundays but this week it was on Tuesday night due to our schedules. J had laid out both the paddles and my hairbrush on the bed. And a hairbrush you ask yourself? I was thinking the same thing. "But... but... why is this out? We're already testing out the paddles tonight." J said "I know, the hairbrush is part of the maintenance, the paddles are after." Sigh. With his hand on the small of my back, I hesitantly bent over the bed. The butterflies were really kicking it now. With maintenance spankings, I tend to relate things in exercise terms, not sure why. Lol. It's usually 1 set of warm up spankings by hand, 1 set of harder spankings by hand, 1 set of harder "doubles" (two in a row flurries to each cheek) by hand, and 1 set with the choice of implement for the week (aforementioned hairbrush). Needing to be able to warm up to using the wood in hopes of not being a black and blue mess, this was over the pants to start with. After getting through with the hairbrush, it was time for the first paddle. SMACK, SMACK, SMACK, SMACK, SMACK, SMACK! Wow, what an impact! And this was with the "lighter" of the two. SMACK, SMACK, SMACK, SMACK, SMACK, SMACK! This was still over the pants and it left quite a sting, I was already struggling to stay in place. He switched to the other paddle and the swats continued. Now in play is the "thud" part. My backside was really heating up now. The pants came down and I laid out on the bed as J continued to interchange the paddles. I tried not to squirm but my legs were kicking at this point. No, he was not injured during any of this (sheesh, why is he the one you're worried about?).


vertical view of double sided paddle


Out came the straight back chair and he pulled me over his knee. Yes, these paddles have the added bonus of being manageable in an over the knee position. Goodie... rolls eyes. My bottom was bared and just when I thought it couldn't hurt any more, yeah... it did. One can only manage so much kicking being over the knee and trying not to slip off onto the floor, so I restrained as much as possible. I'm not one to really curse while being spanked, but I was pretty close to muttering a few choice words this time. My backside was on fire. Just when I wasn't sure that I could take any more, he eased up and the paddle portion was finished. Now, my favorite part of the whole spanking is always afterwards. Aftercare. After a long embrace, I laid down on the bed and he gently put some lotion on my burning rear. But not before he doubled over his belt and gave me a few smacks with that! So twisted, I know. Letting me think it was over before pulling that move. Lol. Now I was quite curious to assess the damage myself. I mark notoriously easy and have a very fair complexion so long ago gave up on the idea that maybe I could build a tolerance and not ever bruise. I checked myself out in the mirror and was fairly pleased with the results. A bright overall redness with some bruising that was clearly going to show more the next day, but not too bad considering. Of course, J said he was hardly even swinging it. Fellow bottoms, we've all heard this haven't we? "I took it easy on you..." Yeah, yeah, whatever. Tops.... rolls eyes. It was about time to go to bed, but not before I turned the thermostat down a few notches. My bottom was certainly radiating enough heat to keep me warm for the night... So off to sleep I went, J's arm around me, basking in the afterglow.