Sunday, August 14, 2011

Holy Schnike, That's Gonna Leave A Mark!

Poor implements, they get a bad rap sometimes. These innocent and often beautiful pieces of wood and leather end up in idle hands and are used to strike fear in the hearts of bottoms everywhere. Don't blame the implement, blame the top!

Okay, maybe some things are worse than others, but I think it really comes down to how it's used and who is wielding it. A leather belt can be used in a soft, sensual way whereas the innocuous wooden spoon can get one hopping.

My paddles from Kitty
They're so pretty, how can you hold a grudge? I think there are so many stories and themes related to particular implements that it affects how we perceive them. The cane is a classic example and honestly, I'm kind of afraid of it. It always sounds so severe. But recently I read a story by Ronnie at Heart and Soul that changed my perception a bit and showed that there are other ways to use it. Scary or not, a caning is something I'm quite curious to experience one day. I know, I know, curiosity killed the cat.

My Domestic Discipline Strap from The London Tanners

I know certain implements like the belt and strap tend to automatically put me in a particular headspace, too. I wrote a bit about that in this recent post on perception of pain. If my mind is in a serious headspace, the spanking may very well feel worse than it really is.

A few weeks ago, J was giving me a maintenance spanking. In addition to what usually goes into that, he strapped me with the implement pictured above after the maintenance was over for a sort of "funishment" session. It wasn't over a really serious reason but I was in trouble for something. I'm not even sure how many swats I got with it, I don't think it was really much more than 10, but it brought me to tears. I can probably count on both hands how many times that has actually happened. I think it was caused by a combination of things including my headspace, how much I dislike that friggin implement, any build-up of stress I'd been experiencing recently, and the hardness of the spanking itself. But the latter was probably the smallest factor. J said he didn't really use it any harder than any other time. It does wrap easily though and I always have little bruises from where the end of it connects on my bottom. Some say that goes away a bit when you get leather worn in, but I don't know that I care to use it enough to become "worn in"!

Back to my point though, a lot of it comes down to who is using it and how it's wielded. For people who haven't had any or very much experience with implements, my recommendation is to go slow. You can always build up to more later but you can't take back something that was way too severe from the get-go. And one bad experience can make someone shy away from a particular implement for good. Warm up to it and if you don't like it at all, there's a lot of variety out there of other things to try. Or you can just forget implements all together and leave them to what they should be used as- wall decorations.


Anonymous said...

Haha! A gap in the Market...recycling all those topped-out items, "eSpank" ? That last picture is diisturbingly right, would go nicely with my wallpaper...

Bronte said...

Hmmmm, not sure about this. Sort of like "guns don't kill people, people kill people"?
Paddles don't turn bottoms pink, tops turn bottoms pink? ;)

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Anonymous said...

You are so right Lea. The more severe the implement, the more experience is necessary.

kiwigirliegirl said...

i like nothing better than a good old fashioned over the knee hand spanking but its very rare it happens. He complains it makes his hand sore lol - what about my poor rear end - he likes implements. They make their point but they do need careful use especially things like the cane and the wire coat hanger ouch ouch and double ouch.
I like the picture of the candle holders - id love to have that in my house hehehe ;)

Lea said...

@wordsmith, What's crazy is it was being sold for nearly $400 on the site I found it on. A spanko could probably create one for much cheaper.

@Bronte, Exactly! You got the idea.

@Carla Marie, I've enjoyed reading it! Thanks for stopping by!

@joey, Amy-sponse 2- Indeed. :-)

@kiwi, You'd want to make sure that the paddles weren't removable first. ;-)

ronnie said...

Lea, good post. Thanks for the mention.

Your quite right, it's how the implement is used. The cane for example, can be quite scary but also pleasurable. We have a small OTK cane that P uses for such, quite different from the school cane we have.

I will always have a love hate relationship with the school cane but the more it's used the more I want:) I think most have a fear of the cane yet want to experience it.


sarah thorne said...

Ha! Paddles belong on the wall, not on my behind!!! :P

We've played around with some pretty (potentially) severe implements. You're correct - it's all about the wielder and how it's applied. Some of the most potentially severe can be some of the most fun in the hands of the right person!!


Lea said...

@ronnie, Yes it's scary and intriguing at the same time.

@sarah thorne, It must be so if you can call a prison strap enjoyable! ;-)

bree512 said...

Ummm....I like prison straps.....canes not so much those straps though.

kiwigirliegirl said...

I so relate to Ronnie....and its definitely an experience....but the more its used the more i want it....hard to explain..but yes any implement can be very menacing depending on how its weilded.

Lea said...

@bree, I haven't experienced a prison strap, I'll take your word for it!

@kiwi, Same to you regarding the cane!

sarah thorne said...

@ Lea, I promise you'd love it! Do you know how many people I know who looked at it warily and said, "No way in hell!!!!" who now stalk my husband at gatherings where we have it on us so he can use it on them??


Lea said...

@sarah thorne, Too funny. If I ever make it to Shadow Lane one of these years.... ;-)